“Does this outfit make me look…?”

How many times have you asked your significant other, “Does this outfit make me look fat?”

Eeeeeeek, don’t ask that question again!  It won’t be good for you, for your relationship, and it certainly won’t be good for your significant other. Just assume your partner thinks you’re hotter than the sun.  And more to the point, make sure you think you’re hotter than the sun.  When you know that to be true, nobody else’s opinion will matter.

Look Good, Feel Good Tip #5:  Only wear clothes that fit you well

Shopping can be a torturous process. You go to the mall to buy a new pair of jeans (or worse – a bathing suit!!) and look in the mirror and think, “YIKES. I look like that?”

Your cellulite has suddenly quadrupled overnight, there are bulges everywhere, and your self-esteem plummets.

Well, it’s not you, it’s the lighting. Your cellulite has not grown, your wrinkles have not expanded, and you have not gained 20 lbs. in the last two weeks.

Nobody, not even Angelina Jolie, looks flawless under the awful lighting of the department store dressing room. Whatever negative thoughts come as you shop, I give you full permission to blame it on the lighting!

And yet, I find a barrier that many people experience to feeling confident in their own skin is not having clothes that fit. Clothes shopping can be terrifying, and it’s hard to face the dreaded try-on of shame where piece after piece doesn’t fit as it “should.”

So here’s some food for thought:

There is no way you “should” look. There is no “wrong” or “right” size. What’s important that from day-to-day, you have clothes that you feel comfortable and confident wearing.

And if that means trying on twenty shirts to find two that you love, bring it on! The pain of the dressing room, while sharp, is short.

Remember what’s important is that you are learning to listen to your body cues. You are discovering the triggers that send you to the refrigerator faster than Eleven can eat Eggo waffles (for all you Stranger Things fans out there, you know what I’m talking about!). You are developing a new, healthy relationship with yourself.

Part of this new relationship with yourself is feeling confident and attractive in your own skin TODAY, not some day.   Someday is not a day of the week.

Shopping can also be fun, when you try on the right clothes for your body.  Remember, you deserve to look and feel comfortable.

Here’s an article about how important it is to wear clothes that fit well (a picture is worth a thousand words):  Click here

And guys (or for the guy in your life) this is for you:  Click Here

This brings us to the end of my Look Good, Feel Good mini-series. I don’t often tackle fashion, so I’d love to hear if this email series has resonated with you. Hit reply to this email or call in to my radio show (link HERE) and let me know what you think!